Teaching Your Child About Bullying
About This Module
Much as we want to protect our children from all the bad things in the world, the reality is that bullying is a huge problem both in schools, online and beyond into the workplace. That’s why educating children about bullying behaviours by teaching them what behaviours are ok and which aren’t ok, means they are already on the front foot if and when a bully approaches them.
WeParent recommends that parents educate their children about bullying, rather than wait until there are signs of problems. Like many things in life, prevention is better than the cure. Our approach to preventing your child from being bullied is based on the view that bullying is one life’s hazards which children can be taught how to manage and avoid.
This module guides you through how you go about raising the subject of bullying with your child, in a way that doesn’t alarm them. You will teach them exactly what various behaviours are stepping over the mark, from exclusion through to having their things damaged or stolen. In just a few weeks, your child will be able to define what bullying is and recognise it when they see it. Giving them the words and confidence to tell someone when they see it.
What You'll Learn
A great way to talk bullying with your child.
Age appropriate hints and tips to explain bullying.
Feel confident in tackling the topic of bullying with your child.
Help your child recognise the difference between a one off argument and bullying.
Start the conversation and keep it going, so you know your child will come to you if they’re worried about bullying.
Psychology Fun Facts
What are bullying behaviours?
Bullying in children aged 6-8 years is most commonly one child exerting themselves over another, rather than wanting something another child has. Bullying in older children aims to get the other child to do what the bully wants. A bully goes further than just trying to persuade another child to do something they want, but they cross into using unacceptable methods including trying to hurt, scare or exclude the other child from activities or from a group.
Behaviours that are commonly used by bullies who exert power over others are:
• Hit or threaten to hit, or push.
• Call names, tease, harass or try to shame a child.
• Take or damage possessions.
• Gossip about a child by telling stories that are false or that belittle a child.
Forewarning your child that other children may try and bully them is the first step in helping your child manage bullying. Children who have not been taught about bullying are at risk of simply accepting bullying behaviour or not knowing what to do about it.
Children who learn to identify bullying confidently can be taught what to do if they think them or their friend is being bullied.
Parents routinely teach children how to cope with hazardous situations in their life, e.g. crossing the road safely.
When it comes to bullying however, many parents opt to ignore this potential hazard for fear of scaring their child. This over protective approach can lead to a child being caught by surprise by bullying and not having the skills to cope with it, or the words to describe what is being done to them.
When you’re teaching your child about bullying it’s important not to scare them. Be clear with your child that bullying does exist and inform them you will teach them what do if they encounter it. You want to give your child the skills to manage bullying should they come across it, without going too far and making them fearful of school or other social situations.