About This Module
Independence means different things to different parents. Catch them on a good day and they are visualising their child heading off to high school, starting work, meeting their partner and moving out of home. Catch them on a bad day and they’re running around after them making sure their shoes are on the right feet, school bags are packed and just trying to get out of the door on time.
Self care skills give our children a sense of pride and contributes to their overall independence through giving them more responsibility. WeParent have designed this module to give you a structured approach to teach your child the self care skills they need, when they’re ready to cope with them. Teaching your child to be independent by giving them ownership of their daily routines and habits, lays a foundation for your child to build a strong sense of independence for their adult life.
Without a structured approach to self care, your child may find they fall behind their peers in the day to day tasks of caring for themselves. This can result in their confidence falling and cause a reluctance to try new activities. WeParent has designed this module to give your child a good solid start when it comes to self care and make this a positive confidence building area of their development.
What You'll Learn
Learn how to teach a child to be independent through a structured and effective approach to helping your child learn to take care of themselves.
Learn new ways to tackle those issues with your daily routines.
Use self care as a way to boost your child’s confidence and independence.
Learn some great tools to tailor your parenting to encourage your child’s learning.
Psychology Fun Facts
Children and independence
Self care skills are made up of the everyday tasks undertaken so children are ready to participate in life activities such as getting dressed, brushing their teeth or fixing their own breakfast.
Small tasks like learning to tie their own shoelaces gives children a huge sense of pride and greatly contributes to their overall sense of independence.
Helping children become independent early pays off!
Start self care early! It may seem very early to be thinking about when your child leaves home and what skills they’ll need. We totally understand how far away that time seems. However, research shows that children who don’t start learning self-care skills before the age of eight will often struggle later in life with basic adult responsibilities.
The ability to be able to leave home and stand on your own two feet as an adult, be reliable at work and be responsible with money is all formed on the building blocks of independence we learn during the mid childhood years.
By teaching children good self care habits in the mid childhood years, greatly equips them for their adult lives.
Teaching children independence and responsibility
Here’s a useful responsibility definition for kids that can be useful when introducing this concept to your child:
‘A responsibility is something you’re expected to do. A responsibility might be your parents expecting you to brush your teeth or your teacher expecting you to be responsible for getting your homework done. If you don’t carry out the thing you are responsible for, then there will be a negative consequence for this. Equally, when you do carry out your responsibility, say for picking your toys up off the floor and putting them away every day this week, then there will be a positive consequence.’
How independent is your child?
Many parents show they love their child by doing things for their child. Parents who are too active in looking after their children can inhibit their child’s ability to think and act independently.
How to encourage your child to play independently
Children have a natural tendency when it comes to independence. They either seek to be independent or, they are happily dependent. Parents may need to adjust their approach to either limit their child’s independence or, encourage independence depending on their natural temperament. Try not to impose your personality on your child.
Parents of naturally independent kids will find they need to limit this independence for their child’s safety, as their child may feel they can take on tasks way beyond their skills.
Parents of naturally dependent children will find their child needs more encouragement to take hold of their independence.
Independence naturally grows at a gradual rate. Mastering a task gives children the confidence to try the next one, one they see as more difficult. When fostering independence, children learn quicker when surrounded by praise for their achievements and little or no focus on any failures.
Once your child feels confident to do a task they may very quickly object if you do it for them. If your child has brushed their own teeth once, expect they’re going to want to do it alone every day. This is their emerging sense of independence in action.